I know this is a controversial topic, so I’d appreciate if everyone respects my opinion the same way I do others. And please, ready everything before making any assumptions.
Yes, I am a Feminist. I believe in gender equality, that women have the right to earn the same amount of pay for an amount of work as men do. I think that society gender roles are stupid, and we all can pitch in with expenses and house chores regardless of sex.
I am also against abortion.
Being a feminist I’ve struggled for years feeling that it meant I needed to be pro-choice… Except I’m not.
Of course it’s not my intention to judge anyone by expressing my opinion, but it is what it is. One of the biggest arguments in favor of legalizing abortion in the United States, is that women have the right to make the decisions regarding their own body, but when it’s not only their body anymore, do they still have that right?
While growing up I read this quote (which honestly I’m not sure who is it from, I was researching it online and found different answers.), and it kinda stuck with me:
“Tu derecho se termina donde empieza el de los demás.” which translates to English as “Your right ends where someone else’s begins.”
That pretty much sums it up, when talking about abortion we’re not only talking about the women’s right to decide about their own bodies, we’re discussing that creature’s right to live. Human beings can be horrible, yes, but whether you were raped, or just made bad choices, that creature growing inside you is completely innocent to everything and it deserves to feel loved and wanted. How many people spend their lives crying over the impotence of not being able to have a child of their own? Providing them with that kind of gift, and at the same time giving that child a chance to experience life, it’s worth a few months of discomfort. When facing this kind of decision it is probable that you didn’t want nor ask for this, but so didn’t that child. And trust me, I can’t imagine what most of these women are going through or the life trauma they might be facing, but is adding the trauma of killing your child really going to help?
I think that regardless, rape is a horrible problem in our society that needs to be addressed and hopefully fixed, and using it as an excuse to legalize another horrible act is not only not going to help at all, but it’ll just makes us a bad example of human beings at best, and simply barbaric at worst.
Almost all pro-choice advocates hide behind the argument of rape, but did you know that, according to the National Abortion Federation (NAF), only ONE percent of of aborting women reported that they were the survivors of rape? On average, women give at least 3 reasons for choosing abortion: 3/4 say that having a baby would interfere with work, school or other responsibilities; about 3/4 say they cannot afford a child; and 1/2 say they do not want to be a single parent or are having problems with their husband or partner (according to Guttmacher Institute, or AGI). And only 12% of women included a physical problem with their health among reasons for having an abortion (NAF).
So yeah, I don’t want to judge and it is genuinely not at all my intention, but are we really so far gone that “interfering with work” is now considered an acceptable reason for murdering a child? Newton’s third law of motion states that “for every action there’s an equal or opposite reaction”, meaning, consequences. If you don’t want to have children, or weren’t planning on it right now, that is perfectly reasonable. It’s your life, your decisions. But it needs to be understood that we need to take responsibility for our actions instead of the easy choice out, and if we didn’t take the necessary precautions or it just happened, murder (because no matter how we try to sugar code it, that exactly what it is. Don’t believe? Watch it happen then.) is not the way to get away with it.
Now, I know that most people who are against this say it because religious reasons, and yes, I am Catholic and I don’t think God would like it a lot if we go around just killing people. But that is not the main reason behind my believes.
I support human rights, I like being kind to others and if there’s something I hate, it’s probably listening to ignorant people insult and offend others because they’re different, such as the LBTG. It might make me naive, yes, so deal with it, but I think we are not better than anyone else and we don’t know anything. Our job in this earth is to love, not to hate. So who are we to say whether the way they choose to live their lives is wrong or not, specially when it comes from a place of love? And in the same way, who are we to decide when exactly do we become a person? and when exactly is okay to commit murder? Where is the line drawn exactly? How many loopholes does it left behind?
Again, I think our main job is to love each other, so embracing child murder is probably not okay. Abortion is not the answer. Instead, we should focus on what the cause of the problem is, the real problem: Violence, rape, and patriarchy. Education is such a powerful tool, and we should be using it to teach men that rape and violence and dominating women is not okay, instead of teaching women that they could “counteract” (not really) something horrible that happened to them, by doing something else that equally horrible.
This thought of Utopia might make me an idealistic, but yeah, it is how I feel.